By Dana Leipold
Do you ever feel completely shocked by what you hear and see in this world?
Do you ask yourself, “Is this really happening?”
Do you wish you could run away to a safe, peaceful place where the chaos and craziness can’t infiltrate your mind like a thousand monkeys high on caffeine?
Lately, I’ve been wanting to curl up in bed and forget all the hate, insanity, and vitrial. Sometimes it’s just too much, especially for people like me who are extra sensitive to suffering and pain.
Then I hear that faint, soft, calm voice inside my heart. We all have this intuitive guide within us and the world tries to distract us from it and its message, which is all about love and acceptance.
Going Against the Mainstream
If you’ve ever been in a flowing river, you know that trying to go against the flow can be challenging. It’s much easier to just float along and let the river take you wherever it’s going.
But when it comes to surviving and thriving in this crazy world, you’ve got to go against the mainstream.
The mainstream will take you far away from yourself and tell you that you need “stuff” to make you whole. It will lure you away from what’s really important with shiny, shallow pursuits. It will make you doubt yourself or worse, not love yourself just as you are.
Going against the mainstream means unplugging from the proverbial “Matrix” and being grateful for what you already have. It means seeing yourself as a whole, beautiful, and capable human being without all the “stuff.” It means loving yourself so you can give that love to others.
Paying Attention to Your Body
When you’re caught in the web of self-doubt or self-loathing, how do you get out of it?
For me, what usually works is to pay attention to my body. It always knows before I do when things are out of balance. For example, recently I’ve been noticing that my energy is really low, more so than it usually is on a normal day. Instead of ignoring this or chugging a bunch of coffee, I asked myself why my energy is so low.
I discovered that I’ve been missing the connection to myself. The connection that reminds me I’m alive, I’m good enough, and I have gifts the world needs. But I’ve gotten sucked into news about the recent overturning of Roe V. Wade, mass shootings and the lack of any meaningful response, and the overall turmoil in this world. What have I been doing about it? Basically, numbing my feelings by binge-watching a bunch of meaningless content.
Rather than shame myself for this, I recognize that this is what I’ve been doing. I’m giving myself grace because I’m human and all of the shit is a bit overwhelming and it’s perfectly normal to want to numb-out on Netflix or Hulu or Disney+.
But that’s what the mainstream wants us all to do so we don’t pay attention to what’s important.
It’s time to FEEL those feelings, acknowledge them, and move forward. That’s why paying attention to what’s going on in your body is such a reliable way to get out of the self-numbing cycle. The body doesn’t lie.
Those headaches, that insomnia, that indigestion…all of it represents a signal that you need to come back to yourself.
I need to come back to myself.
Tapping in to Your Inner Voice
But how do you come back to yourself?
I’ve found that the only way to do this is to get quiet and still but unfortunately, we don’t like to do this because it might be uncomfortable. It’s not easy to sit with feelings of shame, self-loathing, disappointment, guilt, or all those yucky things. The funny thing about those feelings is they don’t go away until they’re acknowledged and allowed to dissipate. They might hide in the corners for a while but the next time something triggers them, they’re in your face like a bunch of gnats.
You’ve got to realize that you’re strong enough to sit in silence. “Sitting in silence” doesn’t have to be meditating like a monk (although for some people that works), but for you it can be whatever it needs to be. It can be taking a walk, gardening, having a cup of tea, reading an uplifting book, painting, dancing by yourself, doing yoga, writing in a journal, or anything that disconnects you from the mainstream chasm of negativity and connects you back to what makes you feel alive and vibrant.
Once you let those yucky feelings do their thing, that’s when your inner voice speaks the loudest. All the gunk has been cleared and you can hear and feel what’s right and important. You’ll know what to do, or not to do. You’ll see that you’ve got everything you need to take the next step or to wait. You’ll finally believe that you are good enough, and that no matter what’s going on in this crazy world, you’ll know you can survive and even thrive.
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